How To Be Yourself (3 Steps)




   Being yourself is as easy as it sounds. Though being yourself might seem like a thing you find yourself not being able to do.
   Steps to being yourself comes with 3 headings. Look at them below..  

Know Yourself
    This simply means identifying yourself, knowing what you are capable of.
   When you know your strengths and weaknesses, then you know what you need to change about you.
   Being able to know what you are capable of helps in this case because it shows who you really are and if you are actually real. Some points you need in knowing yourself includes:
  • Honesty and 
  • Open mindedness. 
  This helps alot, because when you are honest with yourself. Then knowing yourself would be a lot easier. 
   Open mindedness comes into the picture because no one knows you better than you!. It's simply the willingness to try out new things.

Adapt Good Human Relationship
    This step is all about your relationship with people. This takes like 75% of everything concerning "being yourself". 
   Knowing exactly how you act around others will show if you are really being yourself at all. You can know if are not being yourself if you.. 
  •  Compare yourself to others. 
  • Displease yourself to please people. 
  • Treat people how you don't want to be treated. 
  • Worry about what people think or say about you. 
They are more, but these should be the core ones. Not to talk much on this 2nd step
  The only thing you need do now is start doing the opposite of the words on pink listed above. 
  • Stop comparing. 
  • Stop being a people pleaser. 
  • Treat people exactly how you want to be treated. 
  • Stop caring about what they think!! 

Acceptance
    This is accepting that change takes time and is constant. 
Think of yourself as a work in progress. Write down your wins and looses. 
   Know that everyday must not be as planned and that everybody must not accept you as you are. Just like this quote "Be a good person but don't waste your time proving it". 

  And also remember that being yourself is something you might be doing unknownly. But due to the fact that the world doesn't get it, you might get stuck trying to be Yourself when you really are. 

  I would love to know your thoughts on this and if it helped you in anyway. 🌸

How to improve your personality | 6 tips

Personality :

According to oxford dictionary is the combination of characteristics or qualities that form an individual's distinctive character.

Why improve my personality? :


This can be as a result of anything because change is constant and you might as well feel you need that change in your life and in your relationship with others. 

Personality Test



1. IDENTIFY YOUR TRAITS 

This simply means knowing what you are capable of. This can be done by writing it down on a paper or journal,somewhere safe.

This is where  deep thinking and self honesty comes in. Be honest and group those characters of yours under where they are meant to be.

That is why i mentioned above that honesty comes first when dealing with ourselves. Pick out those traits you feel guilty of. 
Same for the good ones. 

2. KEEP AN OPEN MIND 


This simply means willingness to try out new things. This should also includes:

Practice self care.

Keeping in touch with people.

Becoming a good listener. 


3. IMPROVE  YOUR  BODY  LANGUAGE  


Body language give us out alot. In this case we are focusing on the EYES.
 Try to make eye contact when talking to people. It shows you are a bit intrested in whatever the person is saying. 


4. BE A POSITIVE PERSON


Nothing pisses people off than someone who is a pessimist. 
Its hard though but being positive also helps others around you. 
If you are a positive person, you will attract positive things. 

5. KEEP A TRACK ON YOURSELF 


That is why keeping a journal is important. 
Go back and check if you kept to words about improving over the Weekend. 
Keep tracks on things you did and didn't do; in that way you would know if you are really improving or not. 


6. IT'S OKAY TO MAKE MISTAKES 


we all are not perfect. 

So falling off the tracks is not something you should worry about. 

This is a gradual process. You have to keep trying like "faking it till you make it" sort of thing.  





Feel free to drop your thoughts in the comments box. 
Tell me if this was helpful. 





8 Simple Ways To Practice Self Care


Self care"/>

    Practicing self care means both physical and non physical act on yourself.
  It's something you do to you, on yourself, by yourself, it's something free and Resolutional. A lot cheaper way of practicing self care is understanding your own needs emotionally, physically and professionally. Before we hit the nail on it's head, lets understand why we all need to practice self care:
  • stressed lately?
  •   overwhelmed? 
  •  tired of all the bullsh*t in life? 
  •  Just got out of a bad relationship or a good one? 
  • about to enter into a relationship?
  •   one wrong grade? 
   Alot of things can freak you out and get you thinking of life as f***.             Let's talk about 3 important things you need to work on before you move on to self care practice.

Let go of comparing 

As far as life is concerned, nobody is better than the other. Believe it or not, nobody was born better. The nicest you should do for yourself while on earth is accepting  that no one is better than you are. It's just as simple and convincing as that. 

Let go of Regrets and Worries 

Worries and Regrets are the chief things that bring us down in this world. As humans its not really possible to stop thinking and reminding ourselves of things we could have done better. 
But think about this :you know you tried your best at something and it didn't work out. Why kill yourself with worry?, the only thing you need do is try again (ask those outside united status  looking for google adsense approval, they will explain what disappointments feels like). 

Let go of competiting


Just like comparing yourself to others this is just the same. 
In this you feel every need to be better at everything  and face it you can never be. 

As you have passed the above 3 and sure you are not guilty of any of the above;
  Let's Explore more ways you can practice self care on yourself.   

1. Write down things you are grateful for in other words keep a journal.

2. Do something good for the first time like try out a new Healthy recipe, draw something, etc.

3. Practice some yoga or stretch.

4. Read a good book.

5. Turn off your electronics :tv, phone, laptops, etc.

6. Take a walk, spend something in the sun, enjoy nature.

7. Take a long bath.

8. Take a long nap with your phone off.



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